Raising A Teenager

Raising a teenager is hard but being a teenager is even harder which is why kids need someone they trust to lean and share their lives. Be it good, bad or ugly. Having a front row seat in our kid’s life is far better than sitting on the highest bench.

Teenage problems

Be it a female teen or a male teen, adolescent behavior is many a times uncontrollable, to a certain degree we can blame biology for that; intense emotions, the frequent changing mood, frustrations….. They can become quieter and need their own space but does this mean we as parents should show our anger and stop talking to them?
They have their own ideas, decisions, view point and they express it by their own fashion sense, the friends and their choice of songs, their spending money and above that the pressure of academics is at its peak in this age.

Conflict starts when we try to control them or try to impose our decisions on them. However some get arrogant, some develop habit of arguing and when they don’t get emotional support from their family, they tend to move outwards. Now when they search for emotional support and they happen to get into relationship. They can at one time flying high in love and the next moment crash down. Now they enter into loneliness, addictions, sleep disorder and health issues because of which their study also suffers.

Parenting tip

1. Give time to your child

Stay connected to your child and maintain balance with them. Parents because of their being busy miss out connectivity. Many times children demand emotional support and for that parents need to sacrifice their work and be with the child. Search some common things in routine and involve with the child. Don’t give your child too much of freedom, you must have as few rules as possible but also as many as necessary. This will help you have a good rapport with your teenager child. Where he has freedom to put his views and sharing will start in a healthy way.

2. Play and workout together

Can play games of common interest. Family gaming is an awesome way to gel well with your kids. Parents often miss this opportunity when they walk away saying it’s not our age to play games or we are busy. Walking/jogging/or exercising together is again where you get chance to build in good routine of your child and in this way you stay together, happy and healthy.

3. Go for short trips

It will not only build sweet memories but exploring different places and culture together will give your teenagers children a wonderful time spent with you. This togetherness is the driving force behind a loving heart. They will never crave for outings with friends. This will help your children be much happier and contended. Through exposure to the larger world they will learn values and beliefs. Keeping in mind this primary responsibility we as parents can shape them as we want. They are in transition state, going to be adult so avail this chance to grow them, by being with them.

4. Never compare with others

No child will like to be compared with others and growing kids have self respect and ego, when parents get into comparison the child is filled with negative emotions leading to low self esteem sometimes. By constantly doing this we increase their stress and anxiety level leading to poor academic performance. We gradually damage our relation with them and they try to distance from us. Where the child should share his weakness and problems now will start hiding thinking he is not good enough. So stop comparing if you are into this habit, it’s the most damaging thing you are doing to your child. Adding more to this, comparing Childs appearance or physical looks. As it is in this age they get conscious about their looks. According to new guidelines targeting products for fairer skin is that ads should not show darker skinned people as unhappy, unsuccessful and depressed.

5. Keep encouraging and praising them

Always encourage and appreciate their efforts behind any task. Show them you care and love them. Their mistakes should not be criticized rather motivate them to correct their mistakes and perform better the next time. This will help them grow in a balanced way. They should be able to manage their anxiety so that they take care of their emotional health.

6. Teach them to be kind

Their surrounding their peer group is negative and unfair but all are not same so never train your child to such extreme that they become selfish. Kindness is a gesture that makes them attractive and loving which definitely improve their personality from within. Be a positive role model let them observe you acting kind as often as possible, small kindness are important as well. We all can take small steps to help create a better world.

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Take the help of professional counselors, they will help you understand your problems and come out of emotional turmoil. You will feel confident and strong. Addiction makes you weak and insecure; breakups can cause a lot mental distress so to bounce back to a stronger you taking help of metal health workers are the best option. Easy availability of best psychologists is there to help you while you are at your workplace or home. OnlineCounseling4U offers the best counseling service for stress, whether it is academic or any other life stressors. You can find certified psychologists who speak your own language and that too while you are in your own comfort place, your home. You can have one on one sessions without breaching confidentiality, you can talk to the psychologists are non-judgmental, open- minded and accepting in nature. You can book your appointments for any time of the day. The psychologists are always ready to help you with your issues.

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