How to handle a husband who has no respect for you

For a marriage to be successful, both the individuals must respect each other with good intentions otherwise it can lead to other problems in marriage. Most cases are such that the husband is disrespectful towards his wife and she tolerates it just for the sake of saving the marriage and avoiding separation. This disrespect can be viewed in husband’s behaviors like he dismisses your feeling and viewpoints and he makes fun of you in front of everyone.

You may not always be the reason of your husband’s such disrespectful behavior but it is must not always be tolerated. Most of the times, you would have to control your reactions and emotions but on the part of the husband, he needs to see what his actions are doing to you. This behavior causes toxicity in marriage which is not good to make a marriage long lasting.

Here are some signs that you husband doesn’t respect you

Every couple has unpleasant conversations with each other on any topic but that should be within boundaries. If the way of talking crosses limits then it turns into disrespect. Following are some signs that show your husband disrespects you:

• He insults you.
• He always puts you down.
• He doesn’t consider you equal.
• He calls you names.
• He ignores your feelings.
• He doesn’t include you while making important decisions.
• He mistreats you in front of people
• He lies to you often.
• He doesn’t consider your opinions

How to manage husband’s disrespectful behavior

1. Increase your self-esteem

To deal with the disrespect given from your partner, firstly you should be confident enough to manage everything. You should be able to think that you don’t deserve this and only then you will be able to stop it. You should learn to respect yourself first and then try to make your husband respect you. If your behavior shows respect for yourself then your husband will also know the same. Defend yourself the time disrespect comes to you which will show that you don’t tolerate bad words for yourself and it’s not acceptable to you.

2. Understand the reason of disrespect

To manage a husband who is disrespectful one should know the reason behind the disrespect. Always make a note when your husband dismisses you and ignores you so that the antecedent events can be taken into consideration. In India’s patriarchal society, men usually engage in disrespectful behaviors towards their wife and it is considered totally normal. But such behaviors should be put to stop as soon as possible after getting to know the reasons and solving the problem from its source only. For example, an insecure husband makes fun of his wife so the main issue to deal with here is insecurity.

3. Communication is essential

It is important to make the husband aware of his behavior and how he disappoints you every time. To resolve any conflict, clear and direct communication is an essential requirement. Become expressive and tell him what you think and how you feel. If something is going wrong according to you, then your husband also should know about it as maybe he will realize it and bring some change in his behavior. One important thing is don’t blame him for anything but just express your feelings and thoughts in front of him. This can be a huge step towards mutual understanding between the couple. You can say, “I didn’t like the way you talked to me.”

4. Walk away from the triggering situation

Sometimes, disrespect turns into humiliation and verbal abuse when not controlled properly. So, walk away from the situation that you know has the chances of making your husband disrespect you. Because such humiliation can overtime affect your mental health and well-being and will definitely lead to separation or divorce. So, one should avoid being in situations in which humiliation can be experienced. Avoiding disrespect and then clear communication with the husband can really help to handle his disrespectful behavior and then save the marriage from drowning.

5. Enhance the quality of your relationship

The frustration that arises when the bonding decreases between the couple can also be the reason of disrespectful behavior. So, wife can do extra efforts to make her husband feel special by planning special dates, go on a trip, spend quality time together, pursue a hobby together, etc. This way love will enhance and connection will become deeper so that disrespect vanishes completely. Read books on relationships and marriage, set standards for each other and work hard to maintain those standards. Always appreciate each other by doing small cute gestures like saying I love you, doing household chores and making dinner.

6. Seek professional help

If things are getting out of control and no tip is helpful then it is high time to seek couples counseling or marriage counseling. A Psychologist being a third person when enters the relationship dynamic of the couple with conflicts can really help to sort out all the issues without any judgment and taking sides of anyone. They suggest worksheets and activities that have to be done by the couple so to help them improve their relationship. Psychologist listens to both the individuals, provides support and empathy and makes the marriage worth to save again.

Visit OnlineCounselling4U for Marriage Counselling

If you think that in your marriage husband is showing the above mentioned signs and hence he is disrespecting you then it is the time to seek marriage counseling at OnlineCounselling4U. At OnlineCounselling4U, there are various Psychologists/Counselors are available who are experts in the field of relationship and divorce. You can book an appointment with them at your chosen time, preferred language and mode of session. Everything that is discussed in the session with the Psychologists will be kept in total confidentiality. So, quickly book your appointment and seek the best marriage counseling services available at OnlineCounselling4U.

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