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Convenient, 100% anonymous, safe, certified professional counseling online.Sigmund Freud rightly said, “ SEX IS ENERGY RELEASED”. As a Psychologist, I receive many calls, regarding “HOW TO GET OVER PORN ADDICTION”. I have patients as young as 13 yrs old to 50 yrs old and above, who struggle with this ADDICTION. This addiction consumes all their time, energy, creativity, and all other brain activities. It also hampers with their COGNITIVE SKILLS. That is it KILLS THEIR BRAIN – ITS ABILITY TO THINK.
What Sigmund Freud has said is true. We, humans, derive 3 things right from the beginning of evolution is SLEEP, HUNGER, AND SEX. These three are strong animal instincts and all the living creatures have this alike. We derive immense pleasure from certain activities. SEX is one of them. Eating, doing some good physical activity, doing some good work releases a PLEASURE HORMONE. The same PLEASURE HORMONE that is also called DOPAMINE is released during watching PORN.
In general, a minimum amount of DOPAMINE, that is around 100 is released while performing any FEEL GOOD activity. But, when a person watches PORN, then there is a sudden spike in the DOPAMINE levels – up to 200 and above. This gives an ecstatic feeling to the person. It gives a new HIGH. And hence the person gets PORN ADDICTION.
PORN ADDICTION is such, that the BRAIN gets tuned to crave for more. in other words, it changes the wiring of the brain, where it becomes a slave to the substance of addiction ( here, itis PORN) as the BRAIN gets used to watching porn and the release of DOPAMINE is decreased over a while. this leads to the condition of compulsive watching of porn, as now the brain needs a constant push of DOPAMINE.
While watching porn, people, especially en engage in a certain behavior of SELF SATISFACTION through masturbation. And this compulsive behavior becomes a problematic one leading to PPU that is PROBLEMATIC PORNOGRAPHY USE. As per research, scientists found that men, with PPU, reacted in a different way to erotic images.
Now let’s discuss the causes of PPU, or say PORN ADDICTION:
Though, PORN ADDICTION is quite common among young boys and men, but, some doctors consider its a HYPER SEXUAL DISORDER. It is a blanket term used for problematic sexual behavior, like excessive masturbation, having hyper sexual fantasies, and compulsive sexual behavior. An ADDICTION is more than just an intense compulsive feeling. The reasons can be many for this sort of behavior.
- Hormonal changes in teenagers and their newly found sexuality leads to watching PORN including both boys and girls. But boys develop this sort of PROBLEMATIC BEHAVIOUR, as the animal instinct is more strong in them
- Lack of DOPAMINE. SEX is a highly rewarding activity and this releases DOPAMINE in abundance. Hence, to get DOPAMINE externally people indulge in PORN ADDICTION
- Easy accessibility to PORN SITES. Moreover, this activity is easy for SELF GRATIFICATION instead of indulging in other PRODUCTIVE ACTIVITIES
- Excessive and unmonitored usage of DIGITAL GADGETS like smartphones, tabs, etc. by children is one of the major reasons for the increase in PORN ADDICTION CASES in children within 15 yrs of age
- Low SELF ESTEEM, LONELINESS, LOW SELF WORTH are few reasons for indulging in any form of ADDICTION, as an addiction gives the much desired HIGH, and releases the FEEL GOOD HORMONES easily
- STRESS, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION is one of the many reasons for PORN ADDICTION. Most men struggle with the release of STRESS RELEASING HORMONES. Hence, they find out other ways like this to deal with their issues
- Having unfulfilled SEXUAL FANTASIES is also one of the reasons for PORN ADDICTION
- Underlying, unattended mental and emotional health issues is one more reason for PORN ADDICTION.
- PORN ADDICTION is another way to vent out the frustration of a BAD RELATIONSHIP and SEXUAL DISSATISFACTION
Effects of porn addiction
- PORN ADDICTION changes the wiring of the brain by altering the DOPAMINE LEVELS
- People are so much addicted to porn that they are ready to spend money endlessly without giving it a second thought.
- Once addicted to porn no one can resist the feeling of watching it over and over again, wasting most of their time in front of their gadgets. This leads to LOW PRODUCTIVITY affecting their performance
- People tend to be awake the whole night as they are watching porn. This causes SLEEP DISORDERS
- UNREALISTIC SEXUAL FANTASIES leads to troubled relationships
- UNREALISTIC SEXUAL DESIRES when unfulfilled, can lead to frustration, STRESS, AND DEPRESSION in both the partners
- Children are affected the worse, as they are ripped off their innocence at a very young age. They indulge in UNPROTECTED AND UNHYGIENIC SEXUAL PRACTICES from a very young age. This can be hazardous for their overall well being. It affects their studies too
- PORN ADDICTION, kills the ability to think. It affects the COGNITIVE SKILLS and CREATIVITY adversely
- PORN ADDICTION is one of the culprits to cause ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION. This is because the mind is tuned to watching PORN to get the arousal and so is the body. Hence, when one gets into the “ACTUAL ACTIVITY”, one faces arousal issues that cause ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION
- Like any other addiction, PORN ADDICTION too brings guilt feeling to the person. That can be one of the reasons for mood disorders and stress
How to get over porn addiction
PORN ADDICTION too can be won over, with great determination, and strategy. One has to be highly committed towards de-addiction. SEXUAL THOUGHTS driven by watching porn is an energy that cannot be suppressed. It’s true. Energy cannot be suppressed but it can e channelized. Hence one has to keep oneself busy.
- Join a spiritual group, practice MEDITATION, AND CELIBACY
- Hit the gym, or take up YOGA or any rigorous physical activity. This will help in releasing DOPAMINE, and thus the urge for SEX or watching porn will decrease
- Take up a hobby, that will build creativity and keep your mind busy releasing man positive thoughts
- The moment one gets the urge to indulge in the act of watching porn, immediately, one should start the skipping exercise using a skipping rope. This might sound weird, but if one sets a goal to make 100 skips in 5 mins then, the focus will shift from porn to achieving the goal
- One should go for a walk and connect with nature while one gets this strong urge. This helps in changing the mood
- If you have a pet, spend more time with it. Play with the pet, take it for a walk. Playing with a pet releases OXYTOCIN, a LOVE HORMONE in abundance. This gives one a feeling of being loved and self-worth
- COUNSELING helps a lot to deal with PORN ADDICTION
If someone happens to find their siblings or children indulged in watching porn, then do not scold them or threaten them. Rather, explain to them that it is the hormones that are behind all these SEXUAL DESIRES, URGES, AND FEELINGS. It is a part of the growing years. It is energy being wasted. Hence, one must use their energy wisely.
AS HIS HOLINESS SRI SADGURU RIGHTLY SAID “YOUR INTELLIGENCE IS HIJACKED BY YOUR HORMONES”
How Online Counselling help in Porn Addiction
It’s a crucial period when hormones play dirty games with the mind, disrupting its ability to THINK wisely. ONLINE COUNSELING too gives equally good results at par with one on one COUNSELING. Here at OnlineCounselling4U, the COUNSELORS are trained, MENTAL HEALTH EXPERTS, who listen to the problem and offer suggestions without being judgmental. Here COUNSELING is offered, through phone (call), chats, video calls, emails.
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